Oof oof.

Double post today because it is double plus ungood.

I considered not going to tango class tonight—have I mentioned tango yet? Let me back up a bit.

I decided to try doing a tango class this January. It’s a low-risk investment—close to home (City Dance Corps, where I took tap!), I’ve done it before so have some experience, only four classes and I got a discount, so inexpensive. I was really, really missing my tap classes—for mental health reasons as much as anything else, tap always boosted my mood—but no way would I survive that level of noise, speed, memory, and balance! Tango is more chill. The music is chill. The moves are chill (at least for beginners). So I started tango again, and it was great! 

The first week we just worked on the basic walk, transfer of weight, and leading/following. It felt like exactly the right way to get back into things. Basic steps, a partner to hold onto, and also good balance and proprioception work. The whole thing about following is listening with your body. Focusing on your posture, “maintaining your frame” by keeping your back long and upright, and your arms firm. Feeling where your partner is taking you, knowing where your feet are without looking, feeling when your partner transfers their weight and transferring your own accordingly. Feeling your body weight going down through your spine through your apex and into the floor. And—the joy of dance! The joy of being in a room full of people, held together with music and movement.

The second week we added salidas and rebounds. Salidas involve taking the basic walk and transfer of weight and making a pattern—back, left, forward, forward, right, transfer—with the leader choosing the tempo of steps to follow the tempo of music. The leader might also add additional directional steps as needed for traffic control (with everyone having different length strides and different speeds, we had a few narrowly missed collisions! Rebounds are very simple—basically the dancers gently rock back and forth, transferring weight from front foot to back foot without putting full weight on either, to “buy time” if the floor is crowded, or gently redirect the follower to a clear area. Very much listening with your body, transferring weight, feeling your balance, in the arms of your partner.

So this week. This week I was coming in late. I was feeling pretty zoned out after my crashout in the afternoon, and the 10-minute notification on my phone caught me off-guard. I considered not going. But I pulled on my boots, through my dance shoes in my bag, thinking about how good it felt the previous two weeks, thinking about how even if I started in a bad mood, I was always in a good mood by the end of tap class. A couple of other people were coming in late too, and we chatted as we shed our winter gear. And I stepped into studio three, and—they were doing ochos.

Ochos, without partners.

“Project your right foot forward, transfer the weight, and as you do, pivot your frame towards the mirror, then pivot on your right foot—”

Pivoting, on one foot. Without even a partner to hold onto. 

I tried, a couple of times. I just felt shakier and shakier. I should have know this was coming; I remember practising these moves at home with my hands against the wall, two years ago when I first took tango. 

(It occurs to me now, I could have tried to practise against a wall in the studio, but possibly the most irritating concussion symptom is slow processing speed—I never think of these things in the moment when they would be useful!) 

Anyway I quietly took my leave, hoping to go unnoticed. Another latecomer was arriving—taking his boots off, as I put mine on—and said, “Done already?” I explained about the concussion and the ochos and the balance and probably wasn’t very clear but was mainly focussed on not crying until I was outside on my own.

And then I got home to find the landlord had shovelled the basement entrance, and up to the wheelie bins, but stopped short of the steps so I still had snow to wade through. And this morning I got told off by the postal carrier for not having shovelled, but I just can’t. I still get pain in my shoulder from doing my physio exercises (basically lift your arm, hold for 5 seconds, lower slowly, 10 reps to the front, 10 in the scapular plane, 10 to the side) and Angus says it will be another few weeks before the inflammation in my rotator cuff has healed. 

But I look normal so I must be fine, right?

Just feeling so frustrated today.